It is what it is – a phrase often used to describe the inevitability of unpleasant aspects of life. But what if there’s more? Could an entire reality be obscured by our expectations? Theoretical physicists, Niels Bohr and Albert Einstein disagreed on the nature of reality; Einstein believed everything was fixed and ultimately knowable while Bohr posited that our observation and participation change outcomes. Some things are in flux until the moment of perception. Are we actors in our lives or extras? What can we do to change our experience?  How much agency do we actually have? Let’s explore.